fuuuuuhhh~~~

salam'alaik~~
awwalan bismillah...~~








lie na me..lie to me...what ever u call 'em...[nothing to do with this act.]








بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم




talking bout marriage....
there gonna be too many marriage this year..
around 4 of ma cousins gonna be married couples this year n 2 more at the beginning of next year..i.Allah...
biiznillah...
we planned...and Allah has His Greatest planned..
rabbiyassir wala tu'assir...


i give ma forward wishes to all of u...


barakallahulakuma..wajama'a bainakuma fi khair...ameen~~




around those talking...
around those discussing people..


there's sumthin going around me too...


suddenly..
soalan cepumas bertandang..
kak ngah nk bawak spe pule dtg rumah..? n etc.




huh...
those questions came in not at the right time...
i can just say nothing..
n sometimes i just try answering 'em by saying..


spe2 je la yg nk...


n dosen't put any hope to hear a reply..but there's a reply...


mne bole spe2 je...kne la yg b'kenan dihati...


yet..only silent give back a respon to da respon..
n only ma heart talking to ma mind..


suddenly i realize..there's sumthin weird here...
how can i enter this topic easily nowadays...
oh yea...i've had entered ma 20th year of leaving...
maybe..
that's y i've a green light to talk bout men..
or sumthing related to marriage..[ohh..so childish..]
hurm....


easy to talk...but too much to do to get 'em done...
either it's before..
while having it..
or even after.......
there's too much to be done...
there's too much to be considered..
only wise people can get through it with care and proper..
i do mean wise people...
people who think twice b4 doing sumthin..
people who not just mad in everything, b'coz they not in a good condition, mentally..to make a decision..
people who can manage well..who can sit and discuss properly..who can give n take..
n other wise people...
only 'em can have a good and smooth plan and event...
with the help from Allah..
biiznillah...inshaAllah...


n u've to have financially planned too...
to avoid yourself facing deficit in da future...
that would be totally,extremely, huge burden to have too much deficit in ur future...
it might hurt ur marriage too...
so plz have a gud financially planned...


an expert saying said..
u have to make sure..your deficit did not exceed 1/3 of ur income...[if i'm not mistaken]




besides, u've to have..emotionally ready to face ur future with ur spouse..
there shouldn't be any selfishness..it shouldn't be...

expert said..
discussion is da best solution..

if there's sumthin not right happen n u feel it..
don't just kept quiet and aspect it would healed by itself...
b'coz it might get tougher to be cured when suddenly u realized it didn't gone as what u thought it would..




consideration is such an important task..
before..
today...
tomorrow...
n future...
consideration...




live after marriage...
responsibility..
preparation...
plan..
give and take..
understanding-consideration..discussion..
and those...
it had been stated in the guidance book, the holy book..the saying of prophet book..
for years...decads...and even ages...
we should seek 'em...seek da right guidance...from da right decision[to seek the right guidance]...
we should learn... too face those obstacles


n i'm still learning.....
i know just bout too little things...
it's hard to get through those barries without knowledge..
u just been fulled in ur own emotions...
b'coz u not matured enough to make a good decision..








for me to think and ponder..~


wassalam~~