salam'alaik~~
peace be upon u..^_^
awwalan bismillah....
hmm....thinking...
lying?
lying...
lying!!
n lying...
lead na stealing..
liar will gonna be theft?!?!!
hurm...
what's up??that's not da real point i wanna talk bout..
silent??lead na headache??suda'??kinda..
when talking bout..men're from mars..women're from venus..
different gender with diff style n concept of living..
misconception creates lots of problems...
one love to solve his own problems by himself..
another one need to share in order to get of from stress..
sometimes, when these needs are being ignored b'cause of some reasons..
it'll gave out a huge impact to it's owner..
n sometimes we'll just pretend to be ok while we're not..
talking bout give n take..
talking bout the right to receive...sometimes we take it too easy on the right to give..
how we should give..
to make something simple not complicated..
we should look on how to give..
da same thing apply on other situation..
like
for an instance..
to get a good friend..
u should be a good friend too..
not by asking your friend to be an ideal person that u wanted to have..
so..
in order to have a good relationship with whomever the person is to you...
you should act like one..
it might give a hand to ur relationship......with God's will..insya Allah...=)
if we want others to respect our idea
..[respect doesn't mean agree]
we should act like one..and keep practising it..
remember..respect other idea doesn't mean accepting,
so, if one doesn't respect your idea, let it be..
at least we help ourself out from stress..
maybe we can use other alternative to make our idea useable or applicable..
if n only if our idea is relevant..;)
SO....
in order to give...not to beg the right to receive...
we should understand the differences between one another..
to cope those stress and depress..
eventhough, it's quite hard to apply..
but we should put a try + some afford
..[it should be worth to make a try rather than giving 'em up without any afford, i suppose]
let me quote some of the saying here..
when men go to their caves, they tend to forget that their friends may be having problems too. when woman sees a man react in this way, she generally resists it and resents the man..
by remembering that men from mars, a woman can correctly interpret his reaction to stress as his coping mechanism rather than as an expression of how he feels about her. She can begin to cooperate with him to get what she needs instead of resisting him.
on the other side, men generally have little awareness of how distant they become when they are in the cave. as a man recognizes how withdrawing into his cave may affect women, he can compassionate when she feels neglected and unimportant. remembering that women are from venus helps him to be more understanding and respectful of her reactions and feelings. Otherwise, a man commonly defends himself, and they argue.
here they go...
give n take...
understand one another..
help each other..
when women didn't take it personally for the reaction of a man towards their stress, and use those time to talk with friends or have fun and go shopping..men thereby felt loved and accepted..woman will discovered that man would more quickly come out of their caves.....
;)
and one more..
how to communicate difficult feelings..
by writing letter..
that's what john gray suggest in his book;)
i think i'll stop here..
i'm not so good today act..
got some headache since this evening..
tried na sleep but i couldn't
so i wrote somethin here..
i thought by eating somethin..it'll be gone..
but suddenly..
while completing this post..
i ran to the restroom..
n throw up..
so..till here..pray 4 me..
and thx 4 everythin..^_^
may Allah bless~~
wslm..=)
