Tuesday, May 31, 2011

hasbunallah wanikmalwakil..

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

و
السلام عليكم

"cukuplah bagi kami ini Allah, Dialah sebaik2 tempat diserahkan urusan.."


=)

الحمد لله على كل حال

"bila kita melihat dunia ini secara keseluruhan..masya Allah..
Allah telah kurniakan kepada kita lebih dari apa yang kita harapkan..."
=)

"la tahzan..innallahama'ana"
=)

Saturday, May 7, 2011

subhanallah.....alhamdulillah....^_^

salam'alaik~~

awwalan bismillah~~


ku sangka panas hingga ke petang..
rupanya hujan di tengahari...
puas ku tangisi kpd yg sntse menanti..
tuk mendengar rintihan hati...
rupanya Dia ingin menghadiahi..
aku..sebuah pelangi...
yg menerangi..
jln yg ingin ku tempuhi....

subhanallah...
alhamdulillah...
Allahuakbar...

smoga diri ini..
semakin tabah dan cekal...
cekap dan pantas..
dari hari ke hari...

ameen~~

wslm~~^_^
syukran 'ala kulli hal..^_^

Friday, May 6, 2011

new..

salam'alaik~~

quite exhausted today..
o maybe really exhausted i suppose..
but still wanna hv somethin to capture this moment..
3-11
with ma sis..
learnig from a-z
lending ma hands..
rushing to 45
and done..
addin a lil bit bully from ma lil bro..
n some other stuff...

it's revealed maself to maself..
weakness,weakness n weakness...

tired..exhausted..dizziness...n 1 more task 4 tomorrow haven't done yet..
Oh God..plzz help me..lend me some of ur stregth...
to chase 9

n i should be more independent..calm..n friendly...

bismillahitawakaltu'alallah...

oh God..tomorrow no gurl...just guy...i beg Ur helps...

bismillahitawakaltu'alallah....
sollu'alan nabi..

^_^ smile n calm urself..

end~~
wslm'alaik~~

Wednesday, May 4, 2011

tryin' na..

salam'alaik~~

peace be upon u..^_^
awwalan bismillah....

hmm....thinking...

lying?
lying...
lying!!
n lying...

lead na stealing..

liar will gonna be theft?!?!!

hurm...

what's up??that's not da real point i wanna talk bout..

silent??lead na headache??suda'??kinda..
when talking bout..men're from mars..women're from venus..
different gender with diff style n concept of living..
misconception creates lots of problems...

one love to solve his own problems by himself..
another one need to share in order to get of from stress..
sometimes, when these needs are being ignored b'cause of some reasons..
it'll gave out a huge impact to it's owner..
n sometimes we'll just pretend to be ok while we're not..

talking bout give n take..
talking bout the right to receive...sometimes we take it too easy on the right to give..
how we should give..
to make something simple not complicated..
we should look on how to give..

da same thing apply on other situation..

like
for an instance..
to get a good friend..
u should be a good friend too..
not by asking your friend to be an ideal person that u wanted to have..
so..
in order to have a good relationship with whomever the person is to you...
you should act like one..
it might give a hand to ur relationship......with God's will..insya Allah...=)

if we want others to respect our idea..[respect doesn't mean agree]
we should act like one..and keep practising it..
remember..respect other idea doesn't mean accepting,
so, if one doesn't respect your idea, let it be..
at least we help ourself out from stress..
maybe we can use other alternative to make our idea useable or applicable..
if n only if our idea is relevant..;)

SO....

in order to give...not to beg the right to receive...
we should understand the differences between one another..
to cope those stress and depress..
eventhough, it's quite hard to apply..
but we should put a try + some afford..[it should be worth to make a try rather than giving 'em up without any afford, i suppose]

let me quote some of the saying here..

when men go to their caves, they tend to forget that their friends may be having problems too. when woman sees a man react in this way, she generally resists it and resents the man..


by remembering that men from mars, a woman can correctly interpret his reaction to stress as his coping mechanism rather than as an expression of how he feels about her. She can begin to cooperate with him to get what she needs instead of resisting him.


on the other side, men generally have little awareness of how distant they become when they are in the cave. as a man recognizes how withdrawing into his cave may affect women, he can compassionate when she feels neglected and unimportant. remembering that women are from venus helps him to be more understanding and respectful of her reactions and feelings. Otherwise, a man commonly defends himself, and they argue.

here they go...
give n take...
understand one another..
help each other..

when women didn't take it personally for the reaction of a man towards their stress, and use those time to talk with friends or have fun and go shopping..men thereby felt loved and accepted..woman will discovered that man would more quickly come out of their caves.....

;)
and one more..

how to communicate difficult feelings..
by writing letter..

that's what john gray suggest in his book;)

i think i'll stop here..
i'm not so good today act..
got some headache since this evening..
tried na sleep but i couldn't
so i wrote somethin here..

i thought by eating somethin..it'll be gone..
but suddenly..
while completing this post..
i ran to the restroom..
n throw up..

so..till here..pray 4 me..
and thx 4 everythin..^_^
may Allah bless~~

wslm..=)

Monday, May 2, 2011

fuuuuuhhh~~~

salam'alaik~~
awwalan bismillah...~~








lie na me..lie to me...what ever u call 'em...[nothing to do with this act.]








بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم




talking bout marriage....
there gonna be too many marriage this year..
around 4 of ma cousins gonna be married couples this year n 2 more at the beginning of next year..i.Allah...
biiznillah...
we planned...and Allah has His Greatest planned..
rabbiyassir wala tu'assir...


i give ma forward wishes to all of u...


barakallahulakuma..wajama'a bainakuma fi khair...ameen~~




around those talking...
around those discussing people..


there's sumthin going around me too...


suddenly..
soalan cepumas bertandang..
kak ngah nk bawak spe pule dtg rumah..? n etc.




huh...
those questions came in not at the right time...
i can just say nothing..
n sometimes i just try answering 'em by saying..


spe2 je la yg nk...


n dosen't put any hope to hear a reply..but there's a reply...


mne bole spe2 je...kne la yg b'kenan dihati...


yet..only silent give back a respon to da respon..
n only ma heart talking to ma mind..


suddenly i realize..there's sumthin weird here...
how can i enter this topic easily nowadays...
oh yea...i've had entered ma 20th year of leaving...
maybe..
that's y i've a green light to talk bout men..
or sumthing related to marriage..[ohh..so childish..]
hurm....


easy to talk...but too much to do to get 'em done...
either it's before..
while having it..
or even after.......
there's too much to be done...
there's too much to be considered..
only wise people can get through it with care and proper..
i do mean wise people...
people who think twice b4 doing sumthin..
people who not just mad in everything, b'coz they not in a good condition, mentally..to make a decision..
people who can manage well..who can sit and discuss properly..who can give n take..
n other wise people...
only 'em can have a good and smooth plan and event...
with the help from Allah..
biiznillah...inshaAllah...


n u've to have financially planned too...
to avoid yourself facing deficit in da future...
that would be totally,extremely, huge burden to have too much deficit in ur future...
it might hurt ur marriage too...
so plz have a gud financially planned...


an expert saying said..
u have to make sure..your deficit did not exceed 1/3 of ur income...[if i'm not mistaken]




besides, u've to have..emotionally ready to face ur future with ur spouse..
there shouldn't be any selfishness..it shouldn't be...
expert said..
discussion is da best solution..
if there's sumthin not right happen n u feel it..
don't just kept quiet and aspect it would healed by itself...
b'coz it might get tougher to be cured when suddenly u realized it didn't gone as what u thought it would..




consideration is such an important task..
before..
today...
tomorrow...
n future...
consideration...




live after marriage...
responsibility..
preparation...
plan..
give and take..
understanding-consideration..discussion..
and those...
it had been stated in the guidance book, the holy book..the saying of prophet book..
for years...decads...and even ages...
we should seek 'em...seek da right guidance...from da right decision[to seek the right guidance]...
we should learn... too face those obstacles


n i'm still learning.....
i know just bout too little things...
it's hard to get through those barries without knowledge..
u just been fulled in ur own emotions...
b'coz u not matured enough to make a good decision..








for me to think and ponder..~


wassalam~~